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Tell me your thoughts on: When a Parent KNOWS they have Alzheimer

acey
16 years ago

OK here goes:

My Mom just diagnosed after comprehensive visit with memory clinic. Early to early Moderate.

Was on Namenda, now Aricept added with goal to titrate up to 10 mg, so far she tolerates the 5 mg.

Mom knows she has it. She is living at the Independent wing of a senior community and loves it. She's been there since August (some of you know we just sold her condo, if you read the buying and selling forum). She even discusses it from time to time with the other seniors there, and they all say, "honey, none of us remember anybody's names!"

She still walks, bathes, takes care of 2 cats, dresses properly, toilets, takes the center's bus to coumadin clinic BY HERSELF, and no inappropriate behavior so far... but she forgets names, and the appointments better be on her calendar!

I was a tad surprised, though, when the doctor told me she basically scored a big fat ZERO on MOST but not all the tests.

The doc also told me that from time of diagnosis until death is an average of 7 years, and Mom is 78. She said 7 years because most people (like Mom) have co-morbid diseases, like Mom has atrial fibrillation of the heart (hence the coumadin), controlled hypertension and cholesterol, and glaucoma (OK that won't kill her, but her vision is impaired to a degree).

She is happy, does her art, has good appetite, enjoys meeting the friends.

Questions for you all with early Alzheimer's parents:

Do they seem better than what their doctors led you to believe, at the time of diagnosis?

Her doc told me that most likely, she'll come down with a pneumonia some year in the future, and that will be the nail in her coffin. She also told me to consider having a DNR in place at the senior community in which she lives...so if she doesn't wake up in the AM, and they call the medics, if she is dead, they won't revive her. I have not done that yet....she is still too with it, IMO. Although I suspect if I did resuscitate her, she'd probably have a further insult and brain damage, and require long term care of a more diligent nature, so I can appreciate the doctor's advice.

Do your folks talk about it to you? Do they say to you "geeze, I feel like a jerk for not remembering that, of course we just talked about what Christmas presents I want to give my great-grandkids....now that you reminded me of what we decided".

Look, I know it won't get better. I've already told all the siblings and grandkids that she is as good as she is EVER going to be, so do stuff with her now.

I'm looking for discussion with those of you who are caring for parents who know they aren't mentally all there anymore.

FWIW, she does have all her papers, wills, POA, health care surrogate in order, thank goodness.

OK, Let's talk!

Acey!

Comments (26)

  • ginnier
    16 years ago

    He knows but I don't know if he remembers it from day to day. I'm so thankful he can do most things himself: shower, shave, dress, feed himself. But he's starting to forget where he keeps the flashlight... Didn't he already get the mail? He does not do much money other than hand you a twenty to pay for something. He can count change. He can do most of the things that are "rote". But he cannot keep up a conversation altho he listens. He often has a far away look and my outgoing and curious dad is gone. So maybe he's a few steps ahead of your mom.

    I went thru the testing with him and it was fascinating to see him explain the work he retired from--he was an engineer. But he could not put the hands on a clock to show 2:30. Give him a list of 3 words, he could not remember them 3 min. later.

    So he's on Exelon to hold him at this stage, if possible, but it won't bring him back.

    Be thankful that your mama is able to get out and about on her own a little; it's a blessing that she can be with friends and have conversations that are near normal.

    Dad's friends have his presence but, unless they talk about WWII or the old company, he doesn't contribute much.

    These old folks are all different, I guess, in how they show their Alzheimers. He was diagnosed last spring and I don't see much of a change, but Mom does. She's the one that has to remind him what time to go down for lunch and all that. He's very pokey at dressing etc. too.

  • duluthinbloomz4
    16 years ago

    Since your Mother is still in the independent wing of the facility, DNRs, living wills, end of life directives are probably not on the front burner - yet. The clock's ticking though and when the time comes for her to require assisted living or ultimately long term care, having documents in place is so terribly important.

    My Mother was diagnosed with Alzheimers in 2002 (although we knew it was coming on several years before that) and she died this last September just shy of 92 years of age. And it was pneumonia which was, mercifully, extremely quick and distress free for her. She didn't have any other medical issues, but just didn't have the strength to fight the pneumonia. Back when my folks were doing their wills and revocable living trusts, etc. they each had very comprehensive living wills: DNR was specified, no heroic measures, no feeding tubes, etc. - comfort care only, even if that meant drugs that might shorten life.

    The best thing to do would be to try and discuss this with your Mother; it's hard, but many times they really do know how they want to go, but just can't bring themselves to put it in a document. If your Mother knows how important her wishes are to you - so you know you're doing the right thing for her - she might think it's a good idea. The DNR is simply a boilerplate form that needs her doctor's signature and can be kept with her other important papers then given to the facility in charge of her care.

    If there are no directives, there's no telling how far a facility would go to keep a person alive - and oftentimes it is not doing them a favor.

    I was the live-in caregiver for my Mother from 2001 until she finally did have to go into long term care in October of 2006. Alzheimer's is so different from person to person. It's a cruel disease and is many times harder on the caregivers than it is on the person with it. Mom never did lose language, ability to toilet, bathe (although that got difficult and risky as time passed), fix a simple meal, paint, do crossword puzzles, etc. There was so much old memory hardwired into her brain. But life stopped somewhere back in 1940 and everything after that was pretty much a blank. She was on Reminyl since being diagnosed and did well on that, but despite drugs, the disease progresses. They seem to reach plateaus, then sink, level off for a while, then sink again. And you're right, if your Mom's good now, it might be the best she will ever be again.

    Do whatever you can to get her papers in order; it will give you peace of mind - and the time will come when your Mom can no longer make decisions.

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  • acey
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    xminion, thanks for the response. i have a copy of Brain Longevity right next to me as we speak, and am reading it. I've got her to a memory disorder clinic, and she is now on Namenda and Aricept. As far as the nutritionals goes, I've got some detective work to do there. She has to take Coumadin for her atrial fib., so she has to mimimize green leafy vegetables, watch vitamin K substances, she'd drink more wine if left to her own devices! She has glaucoma badly, and many glaucoma drops mix with so much.

    Anyhow, you are ultimately right...perhaps I'll look around for a nutritionist or naturalist to draw into the mix, for I certainly believe in that!

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    15 years ago

    Cambro5....Drop everything and get the papers in order pronto! Durable power; medical power; living will; will. All of these must be executed while the people are still "competent"....that word used in its legal context. If/when they ever should become incompetent, accomplishing these tasks becomes cumbersome and expensive.

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    15 years ago

    They are called Continum Care Communities. I would suggest that you help them look for ones that are non-profit. I say this because if they are for profit and the money runs out they will be looking for other places to move. Most non-profit communities will keep the people there, regardless of finaial situation. I found all this out over the past several months..........if they go in to a long term care nursing home then the home will spend down the assets and once gone they will put them on Medicaid. However assisted living is different so my advice would be to look in to it for them and get all in line so you understand the ins and outs.

  • cambro5
    15 years ago

    Thanks! I didn't know there were non-profit! There's a lot to learn I guess! I'll look into it!

  • cambro5
    15 years ago

    Just figured out the community my parents are on the list for is a non-profit community - thanks!

  • lindajewell
    15 years ago

    Ask lots of questions, but make sure you ask "What happens when the money runs out." YOu need to be sure they work like the ones around here do!

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    With the "privacy laws" lots has changed! And, lets not forget the ungrateful idiots that have wiped out their parents savings with POA's. That is what has caused so many changes. I am getting through all this and am very lucky my dad can still sign. Most of the money is in his name so I can get it out to pay mom's nursing home bills, but it has been a challenge! I now have it all worked out so should not have too many more hassles. Our investment guy told me today that I am not the only one complaining about the mountain of paperwork that needs to be done to take care of parents! LOL!

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    Lindajewell....interesting couple of posts from you. Apparently things have changed a great deal! Thanks for the heads-up. Compared with what you've described my tasks, accomplished years earlier, were a breeze.

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    Living wills don't always cover. Medical POA in addition always does.

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