A discussion about dementia
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Is this dementia, selfishness, or something else?
Comments (22)Can you talk to your mother about planning for the future -- more as a just in case than suggesting that she needs help now? In my view, everyone should have at least one other person listed that doctors can talk to. Even better would be to add a medical power of attorney that at least gived the named person the ability to make decisions -- decisions which can be as general or as limited as necessary. Do you belong to Costco? Their website has a computer program called WIll Maker. I used it to prepare some documents for my dad (he wound up not using them) and had it available when a friend's mother would up in the hospital needing surgery and the doctors were telling my friend there was a better than 50% chance her mom wouldn't make it. If her mom had difficulties or didn't make it, my friend would be in a terrible position. You don't want to go there. Both my mom and MIL had Alzheimer's and my dad had another form of dementia caused by heart issues. Don't count on being able to get conservatorship until you are past the point where your mom is likely to have had significant problems, injuries or losses. Besides that, taking your mom to court to take away her control and her dignity is not something you or she really want to have happen. I would strongly encourage you to talk with her while she is still competent and get her to at least list you and/or your brother on the medical information release forms so the doctors have someone they can talk to if she should fall or be in an accident. We all need that. If you can get a power of attorney, that would be much better. The power of attorney can be a way to approach discussion of end of life choices too. It will really help both of you if you know what kind of care she wants and her preferences both in terms of medical treatment and in terms of what happens with her property, a funeral, etc. These are hard things to deal with, but time is slipping away from you and you don't know how much time you have until your mom may not be able to help with these things and you are forced into the nightmare of taking away her control and trying to guess what she would want. If you know what she wants, you have a basis for making the difficult decisions. I cannot overstate how important that is. I lost my parents less than 5 months apart. That was difficult enough, but at least we all knew there was a plan for how to deal with all the unplanned things that kept coming at us. I know my dad feared that and wanted to stay in control, but in the end it as especially reassuring to him that I knew and he then saw me honoring his wishes and protecting them. Please try. For both of you....See MoreI had a previous discussion about kitchen paint. Can’t seem to find.
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Comments (5)Ultimately, all tile requires proper installation which starts with appropriate structure. A well qualified tile installer will have the appropriate advice for your particular structure. That being said, our tile contractor installs large format tile in all sorts of applications, from turn of the century homes to new construction and we have never had a cracked tile. I can tell you, that often installers don't use the appropriate setting materials for large format out of lack of knowledge or simply saving money. In addition, with longer large format, it's also not uncommon to see setters not herring sufficient thinset coverage under the tile (particularly if they are fighting a difficult substrate level if they choose not to float it out or use a liquid backer board). Like I said, find a good installer, and use a tile that makes sense for your application and what you like, but don't let cracking being a concern....See Moresushipup1
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