Hi everyone. My cousin and I are still working on getting my aunt moved closer to us and on reporting this niece to the authorities. We have spent hours on the phone and in meetings. Believe it or not everyone in the state keeps passing the buck on this case. We had the state nursing home ombudsman get involved (finally someone returned our calls!!). He went the nursing home and talked to my aunt, the nursing home director and the business office staff. He said that the niece DID commit fraud on my aunt, the nursing home and the state. He said my cousin and I did a great job digging up all this info, but that he was going to do nothing because our actions have stopped her from continuing the behavior. What!!!??!! We managed to find two untouched life insurance policies worth about $4000 total and we set up an account with a funeral home. The other 5 policies are gone and were never reported to the State on the Title 19 application. We are meeting this week with the nursing home Director to see if they are interested in pursuing this woman. If not, I'm calling the Attorney General's office as recommended by the funeral director. I am so frustrated with all of this! Will keep you updated as things happen.

"You have to take some of the responsibility for having burglarized; you know people break into houses, & yet you didn't have a burglar alarm, & you had nice things in your home." I do take responsibility for that - I have insurance, my insurance company says I must be responsible for installing window locks, and alarm. But I know I could be robbed, and I have been. It would be irresponsible of me NOT to make some preparation for a bad event. "I never have heard anyone say, "You have to take some of the responisibility for having had your car stolen. What made you think nobody would steal a nice car like that?" I am responsible for where I park it...for having it insured etc, I drive a boring car that nobody would want to steal. These are things I have done to lesson the chances of me becoming a victim. If we are responsible for our behavior, surely, in the terrible event we become a victim, we will move through the trauma process a lot more smoothly and eventually end up in a place of forgiveness. If we think of ourselves as a "victim" then how do we get over the trauma ?

I`ve been married for 16yrs. it has been up and down all 16yrs. He always have been controlling, I had a 2yr. when we met and he wouldn`t even let her sit by me. When we got married he didn`t want my mom to help me get dressed. When I had our son he didn`t want her in the room, which I understand that one, everything is my fault. The last 3 yrs have been hell, I cheated on him 3yrs. ago and I crushed him he cried and cried he would get sick, that`s when the worst all started. He had an affair with a girl from our gym for 4 months. After that we got past it and renewed our vows then about 2 months later he started talking to another girl, then that stop. Well Aug. of 2008 he left me for a younger woman saying he was in love with her that she treats him like he always wanted me to treat him that he feels she really loves him. Yes I admit I wasn`t the perfect wife and somethings he says that I didn`t or did do are true about I don`t deserve this do I? He and the girlfriend got a place together in Feb. 09 he said he wants to come on and never does, well he does for 2 nights then goes back to her, he has done this twice now. Last weekend I told him I was moving on and I have a date, he told me not to go and if I did he will never come home, well I didn`t go and he came home and it`s been 3 nights now and he is still here, but when will he leave again, what am I dealing with here? Should I just let go and move on? I`m ready to if he won`t change, I mean he is still taking to the girlfriend. PLEASE HELP.

Georgy, I suspect Enoch started with arsenic and then upgraded to a bullet. Today, I walked into the Wachovia bank and saw a sign on the door that said the name was being changed into "Wells Fargo" and I thought, "Oh brother..." I've learned so much more about this case TODAY. Thanks to two helpers, I now know that Addie's death certificate says that Diphtheria was the listed as the cause of death, and that was a highly communicable disease, and it would have provided the excuse that Enoch needed to bury her in the dark of night. And according to Kermeen's book, that's exactly what he did. That's what's almost chilling about this. The facts I'm learning match the "legend" that I've been reading about. I've also learned that there were two young servant girls living in the Fargo household according to the 1900 census, and they *must* have heard the gunshots. Enoch may have threatened and/or bribed them into silence, but once he got old and crispy, maybe that's when they felt free to start telling the horrid story. That's only a theory, but I do know that there were five women living in that house in 1900 when the census taker came by, and four of those women *must* have heard that gunshot. I also know that The Fargo Mansion was about a half mile from the cemetery where Addie was buried before dawn, and the doctor who was involved (mentioned above), lived about a half mile from The Fargo Mansion as well. In other words, logistically speaking, this would have all worked. Addie and Enoch Fargo on their wedding day: Addie and Enoch some time later: Kind of reminds me of those before meth/after meth photos. Sad, isn't it? Here is a link that might be useful: The most recent update on Addie