I think it is great that you have realized that nobody can live with you the way you WERE living and I commend you for changing.

I think what has happened is that you probably annoyed this neighbor so bad with the thoughtless way you behaved previously that he is just now way past tolerating you at all and everything you do is magnified ten times over just because he doesn't like you anymore. It is so hard when you are a previous loud, noisy person who had no regard for others. I realize you have seen the error of your ways, but the fact is, it may be just to late for this guy to ever give you a chance.

Again, as a tenant in an all adult area.........thanks for realizing that your behavior was ruining the peace that everyone is entitled too and hopefully you could at least offer this guy an apology and tell him you realize you were wrong?

best wishes

As has been mentioned, have you actually talked to this man and apologised for your previous behaviour?

Although it's clear you are sorry (as you've changed) he might not know that, and might think you're just coming up with different ways to annoy him each time he complains about something else.

And; it's very difficult to ascertain how much of the noise we're making can be heard elsewhere. Perhaps your TV doesn't sound loud to you, but maybe it's next to a really thin wall and he can hear it really well.

Either way, talking to him and perhaps trying to build some sort of relationship (if you haven't tried already) definately sounds like the easiest solution.

I came to this site because I wanted to know how easy it was to hear neighbors in apartments, because I wanted to see if there are any no-noes of apartment living. Now I live in an apartment and things are quiet for the most part. I hear peoples dogs, and children playing, but it's normal and I actually enjoy the background noise.

Unfortunately I am seeing on forums a constant trend of people complaining about the noise their neighbors are making, and most of these complaints (such as the example from the author) are of noises so trivial. We all chose to live in an apartment building, we already knew we'd be living close to people. So did you all have a fantasy that you wouldn't ever be able to hear them? You blame your neighbors so quickly without relating to them on a human level, try to understand their life as well, and keep in mind that while your getting pissed off at their 'misbehavior' they don't even know that their bothering you in the first place! Your pissed at someone who doesn't realize that their normal lifestyle is keeping you up at night when really you should stop focusing on the little disturbances.

Relax a little, let the little noises go, the occasional door slam forgotten, and even for the neighbors who are INTENTLY and ignorantly being disruptive try to withhold from getting hateful and aggressive towards them and just contact your landlord or the police so they can do their job and help make a more positive change.

kinish, so sorry you have to go through this. I feel for you. I too currently live ABOVE neighbors who think my baby's bouncy seat and or my 3year old's daughter prancing around during the middle of the day is disruptive and actually bang on my floor enough to frighten my children. So first, I feel that some of the follow-up posts of some people just don't really make any sense. I'd like to tell those people and your non-peaceful neighbor that when you live with people above and below you, you will HEAR them living their lives doing whatever they so choose to do. THIS is given that you do the above mentioned activities in normal midday hours that would not disrupt someone's SLEEP at night. Why should you not be allowed to play your acoustic? and to ndrewoods above there, what are you talking about??? Personally Kinish, I would post your message on a different website forum where people will be more understanding of your lifestyle and concerns. As for possibly getting evicted, this is a very difficult situation. Personally and I know it would be difficult to do, but you would either need to wait out what just might happen and risk being evicted or move to another place. I would choose the latter. But just so you know I feel for you!

Where are your receipts for the head phones? Show them to the management, it's clear proof that you have been trying to decrease your noise. You might get a copy of landlord tenant rules and regulations for your state or county. get a microphone and recorder or use the computer, and record the complaining neighbor's noise when he comes in late at night. It sounds like he's as noisy as you, but may be breaking noise laws in your town. Look that up too. Back your self up with talks with your other neighbors, ask them to write out a statement of your noise they experience, take to management. Keep copies for your self. Good luck.