How do you deal with the disappointment?
We raised our children on "it's the thought that counts." when giving gifts.
We don't expect lavish gifts and don't want them. We don't expect them to spend a lot of money on us.
We "give" to them year round, things they need, we always buy their meals when we go out to eat. When it's just the daughter in law and me, I pay for the meals and for whatever event we might be going to. (movie, craft fair, etc.) We buy the grandchildren clothes, shoes, whatever and expect nothing. We do it out of love.
Tonight we had a big meal and then Christmas.
For Christmas, she gave me 2 porcelain mixing bowls.
Bowls had the motif of chickens around the edges.
(I used to collect chickens.)
Used mixing bowls.
Dirty used mixing bowls.
Literally there was dirt in the bottom of one of the bowls.
When I opened the box, it was all I could do to maintain my composure. I thanked her graciously.
They also gave me a candle. (It wasn't used.)
After they left, I showed the bowls to my husband.
His jaw dropped.
He received a lovely shirt and a $50 gift card.
No, it wasn't all they could afford.
In the grand scheme of life, I know this is trivial.
I know I should be thankful, but it hurts. Just flat hurts.