Having bad dreams about a friend from long ago
I had a friend in my early twenties, we were inseparable and we partied and drank almost every night with lots of different groups of friends. She was a great drinking buddy but never a real "friend". I was sort of anti-social in my teen years and to find her was something I never experienced.
Later in the 4 years we hung out together she started doing mean things, being nasty to me in public, insulting me, whenever I had a boyfriend she would put me down in front of him. In college I got a really bad cut and was put on anti-biotics and of course got a yeast infection from it. She told everyone I had an STD.
On my 21st birthday party (over the summer, back home) she threw a party at her parents' house. I was sitting on a chair and accidentally dropped my cigarette on a chair and it burned a small hole. When her mom saw it my friend threw me under the bus and her mom, instead of confronting me or even calling my mom she just sued my parents for the damage for the chair. My mom just paid her out of pocket, and to top it off, she kept the damaged chair AND the money my mom gave her to replace the chair, so I guess it was like mother like daughter.
All during this time things would start disappearing: my wallet was stolen from a nightclub (she suggested I look in the toilet tanks and voila! There it was, empty of course, but I did get it back). Clothes and money disappeared, I blamed it on partying and my roommate who was a little shady herself.
Right before college was out for summer vacation, I had left my wallet in her car when we went to a party out at some picnic sites. My boyfriend was there too, and all of the sudden she and another friend of ours just upped and left. I chased after them but she just left. When I saw her next she said she never found my wallet, I must have brought it to the picnic. When I got home from college my mom questioned me about some charges on my credit card that was in my wallet. They were from Dillards (the Dooney and Bourke section, her favorite purses), Senor Frogs which was her and the other girl's favorite restaurant) and a couple other of her favorite stores at the mall. I knew exactly who took it, but covered for her.
Then, on our last night of our sophomore year in college my boyfriend and I overslept and she didn't bother to wake me, she just packed up her car and drove 6 hours home alone when she was my ride home. My boyfriend helped me finish packing and drove me back home, bless him.
We drifted apart at that point, but about 12 years later I saw her at the casino I worked at at the time, and it was right before my wedding. We were happy to see each other and I told her I would send and invitation for our wedding and made plans to go to the St. Louis Mardi Gras but she never showed up. I emailed her and told her I didn't want to pursue this friendship, I wished her the best of luck and that was that, but she thought it was because she didn't show up to the bar on Mardi-Gras. I told her it had nothing to do with that, it was just that we were on two separate paths and we should just part ways. That was the end of that.
Between then and the invite NOT going out I found out from a mutual friend (but she didn't know we were friends, she thought we were just acquaintances) until they were talking and she told huge lies to our mutual friend, not realizing that I was much close to the mutual friend than she was, and the mutual friend told me everything. Needless to say is that the invite got scrapped.
Anyway, now you are all slapping your head and saying what an idiot I am, and you are right. I WAS an idiot, but I gained the best lesson, how to choose your REAL friends and for that I am grateful that something good came of it.
Recently I found her on Facebook. I told her that I really thought she should apologize to my mom (who adored her, my parents didn't know the whole story) for stealing from her. I also contacted the girl who went on the shopping spree with her, and that girl spilled everything, even things I didn't know about.
After a month with no apology I contacted her again and really told her off, everything I had been thinking for 20 years but never told her. She denied everything, called me a "disease-ridden whore" and blocked me from FB.
Sorry so long, but here is the problem. Every night I dream about her, both as friends and as mortal enemies. I can't shake her out of my head and I don't know what to do.
Any suggestions? How can you change your dreams?