Would you move far to be near 1 of your kids? long
I have 3 children in their twenties. My two sons are unmarried and live in a larger city almost an hour from me. My DD lives near us and is married with a new baby, who is the joy of our lies. My SIL works, but is looking for better employment, possibly across the country.
Being my only daughter, DD and I have always been extremely close, I suppose because we are both female and share many interests in common. I adore my two sons just as much, but neither are 'telephone talkers' and being single and involved in their own lives, we maybe only see them about once every 6 weeks or so.
My DD has told me and DH (who will retire soon) that she and our SIL would be thrilled if we would consider moving out west if she does and hopefully we'd find a home somewhere in the same city. She wants her children to have a close connection to their grandparents and not being across the country from them would afford us to be an active part of their lives.
I know it will be heartbreaking if they move so far away, as visits will be too costly for more than once a year. It could be years until and if my sons marry and had children. But I still worry I'd feel like I abandoned them if we went out west to be near our daughter's family, especially once they have families of their own.
The problem is, if DH and I moved, DH said it would be permanent as he doesn't want to be moving across country more than once. So if my boys marry and have children, I would ALWAYS be very far from them and would never know their children as well as I'd know my daughter's kids.
Realistically, my sons and their families may visit their wives' families more often than us, as is often the case when sons marry women who are close to their parents. So I don't know exactly how MUCH interaction with my sons' future families I'd be sacrificing, for the surity of lots of interaction with my DD and her family. Have any of you moved far away to be near one child with children, but then later regretted being so far away when your other children had kids?