Why can't you put "good" china in the DW?
My mother always said that if you put china in the dishwasher (the stuff with the painted gold trim) that the gold would come off. Based on my experiences with less good china, I have to agree.
Is it the detergent? Is there something you could use in lieu of standard detergent that won't rub off the gold?
Do new dishes have this issue (my china is ~1940s)?
I break dishes if I handle them when they're soapy so I'd like to get a dishwasher solution. :)