SD may be stealing from me . . .
My SD13 was caught stealing from a store when she was about 5. We have seen no signs of it since, until now. It is complicated and I could use your advice/opinions.
First we are not positive if she has taken these things or if they are misplaced. There is no smoking gun, but things are missing that we cannot find and they are the kinds of things that she would like. I know we cannot risk even implying that we think she stole unless we have that smoking gun. She has also begun to act a bit like a typical morose and snotty teen; judging everything and thinking she has all the answers. She has a cruel streak that surprises us.
It is not about the things, really, it is about trust and where she is going from here. I am afraid of the possible escalation, and the impact on her and the family, the influence on her younger sister.
It is heartbreaking and frightening to have a member of your family that you cannot trust.
What, if anything can we do? How to help her if you can't even say it out loud?