Just - WHAT?!
So, to recap what's been going on; SS's counselor recommends a temporary suspension of visitations with BM due to SS's deteriorating emotional state. DH has filed for the modification, the paperwork explains what he is asking for and why, BM has received it.
The first step is mandatory "co-parenting" classes, to be attended by both DH and BM, and a separate (at the same time) class with his peers for SS. This is going to be very soon.
BM hates driving by herself and almost always talks someone into driving down with her (on a one hour trip). She also does not like driving in the city (this is not a big city, mind you - we're not talking New York or Hong Kong or anything). Oh well, not DH's problem - he doesn't want to go to the class either as it's almost certainly going to be a waste of time in this case, but it's not optional.
So. DH gets a phone call last night from one of BM's family members. BM had asked her to call because she, BM, wanted to know if she could just meet DH and SS here at our house before the class, and ride there, in our car, with them.
DH is flabbergasted, as am I. Are we nuts? Is she? DH says the only time he could imagine driving BM anywhere was if SS was in the hospital and BM wanted to visit him. I am sure that there are some people who manage to maintain a civil enough relationship that they could ride together, but who still can't agree without mediation - but I'm guessing they are few and far between.
I honestly can't wrap my brain around this one. Does she really not get it? Does she not understand that SS is so traumatized right now that his therapist wants him to have no visitation with her - but she thinks it would be fine if she shows up here, and rides off in our car with DH and SS like they are all one happy family? (And me, I'm going to hang out nearby because we're all going to do a fun, Christmas thing afterward.) The time for trying to be nice, and trying to be reasonable, is long, long past - if she truly wants to start "co-parenting" then maybe first she should listen to SS's counselor?! Or to DH? Or to SS himself!?
Is DH wrong for not agreeing? Is she nuts for asking? Thoughts?