First off I would like to start by extending a happy Thanksgiving to everyone on here :) Have a great day with your families and step-families.
Now for a bit of a vent/some advice from any of you that have been in this situation:
I posted a little while back and mentioned my boyfriends upcoming court date. To make a long story short, this court date is concerning a restraining order BM took out earlier this year (August, to be exact). My boyfriend got angry and sent some inexcusable text messages to BM over something that in hindsight, seems really ridiculous - earlier in the summer my boyfriend lent BM $400 - he made it very clear this was a LOAN and it was because she had lost her job and needed the money to provide for their child. August rolls around and she has not paid back a cent, yet has this elaborate new tattoo. My boyfriend freaks and says some very nasty things. We go on vacation, return, and she has taken out a restraining order barring him from seeing her or their daughter.
We went to court in September and had the child removed from the order. This upcoming date is to address the order itself. Her side is not willing to negotiate for anything less than the order being in place for a year - essentially making him a criminal until next August. He would have to report this on any job or school applications. We have had every intention to fight this. Now my boyfriends mother is suggesting he just accept the order for a year and move on. I am highly opposed. BM is engaged and looking to move out of state. When she tries this, I KNOW he will take her to family court to try and stop her. To me, accepting this order for a year looks like an admission of guilt and in my opinion can only hurt him in family court. He says he is going to talk to his lawyer before making any decisions, but he seems like he is leaning towards his moms opinion. I feel like by doing this, he is laying down to be walked all over. BM is crazy, and I think doing this will just prove to her that she can get her way by lying and threatening court action.
Has anyone been in this situation before? Any advice?
Thanks everyone, and again, happy Thanksgiving.