Do we have a leg to stand on?
Does anyone know if bm doesn't pay anything between now and Thanksgiving and she hasn't paid in over a month, can we tell her we will not transport him to her? She'll be over 2 hours away and want us to drive him to her at that location. We have done so in the past because it was on our way to where we were going but we are staying home this year. We would be driving an explorer, so mileage would be for over a 4 hour drive with an suv... one that holds 7 people. Her support isn't much anyway but I don't see how we can be forced to take him to her when she hasn't been supporting him. I want dh to tell her if she wants him to come get him at our home, it's not denying visitation, it's simply.... she's not helping out so we can't afford that gas. For real.... we can't right now. I really needed her to make a payment on time... and she didn't. It's getting later and later all the time. She's going 5-6 weeks between payments and only paying for 4. We don't get paid till black Friday.
I don't think she'd take us to court over this because she's so far behind, plus she's got a job now so I think her support could be raised significantly. Any opinions on this? SS doesn't even want to go but we told him he doesn't have a choice. I think he'd want to go if he were going to his real family, like her moms but they don't do that. They go to his new step dads families house. He doesn't like them to much.... he hardly knows them so I can't say that I blame him.
Just to clear things up. Our court order states that we drive him to a town in the middle of our town and hers. It's 2 1/2 hours away. BUT... she wants us to actually drive him to the home that she's going to stay at in her old town. She probably won't be there until much later then she'll want us to drop him at. Can the court force us to transport him if she's not supporting him? I know we can't deny visitaion but what happens with transportation?