SS (8) struggles in school. I can't really put it much more plainly than that.
He had a Science Test this past Tuesday that he'd been studying for for a week; this was the first Science test of the year and a fairly comprehensive one. A study guide came home a week ago, and we spent 10-15 minutes on Wed and Thurs. nights reviewing it. Then DH reviewed with him again on Sunday afternoon, and when he talked to SS on Monday night (he was at BM's) he reminded him to review for the test.
So yesterday I picked SS up from school and I asked him how his test had gone. He acted completely confused and said "What test?" I said the Science test, and he said, "I don't know what you're talking about."
Hmmm. He seemed so sincere---genuinely confused, like he really didn't remember it. He does seem to have difficulty retaining information, so I didn't push the issue. I was hoping, after all the studying, that he would be proud and excited b/c he'd done well.
Anyway, I dropped the matter, but then when DH got home from work, he also said, "How was your test?"
"Your Science test."
"Oh yeah that. I don't know, we didn't get them back yet."
Again, he seemed totally sincere.
Well, later in the evening, I was putting clothes away in his drawers and---in his sock drawer, I found a crumpled up packet. I picked it up---it's the Science test.
With a 1.
I don't fully understand his grading system but I guess--they get 1, 2, 3, 4 or 5. 5 would be equivalent to an A, I think.
I told DH privately and he confronted SS. He wasn't MAD or ANGRY, but just said, "Why did you hide this? Were you afraid we'd be mad?"
After assuring him that no one will EVER be angry at him for a bad grade, so long as he's trying his best, then dH dropped the matter.
I personally am less concerned with THAT and more concerned with the continued dishonesty. I understand WHY he did that, but IMO, at 8. 5 yrs old, he needs to have a consequence for being deceitful.
Don't get me wrong, I empathize with him, and I do hope he understands now that he does NOT have to be shamed or feel like he'll be in trouble for a bad grade. DH assured him that we know he studied really hard for the test, and he is NOT in trouble; as long as he tries, that's what matters.
But still. I don't know. I think the fact that he lied a) to me b) to DH and c) went so far as to HIDE the test is not good.
I feel like little things lead to bigger things.
But DH does not think it's a big deal.
And please---no suggestions about tutoring or LD testing, DH and BM think he's fine. I am mum on the subject. Not my decision.