adult children (again)
My long-term BF's son will be 21 soon. He has not worked or gone to school in almost 2 years. He's like a hermit with no friends, except for the internet. My BF wants to marry me, but I don't want to live with his son while he's not working or doing anything productive in life. He would steal from me (because he does steal small amounts of money from his other family members). I think he would resent me and my child being under the same roof. He prefers the house to himself and we would be there more than he's used to.
Even if he got a job or went to school part-time, I see him as a lifelong slacker. He will always want to live at home (yet, he resent his dad and doesn't have much of a relationship with him). I guess, our parenting styles are too different. I don't mind a productive adult child living at home, but a messy, lazy, antisocial one is something I would find too challenging.