New Marriage in Serious Danger
I just married my DH 6 months ago..since then its been a nightmare!! The skids ss11 sd 8 come over every other weekend sometimes 3 weekends a month. I try to be understanding because a lot has changed but weve been together and living together for over a year now. I have 3 kids of my own d10 s5 s 3. My kids are average kids, they each have their issues which I tend to as soon as they surface. My kids are well mannered and show appreciation for the little things in life and always say please thankyou as well as table manners. My dh has been working on manners with his kids for a year and they still talk with food pouring out of their mouths never say thankyou and are very rude when meeting people. weve done family outings like king richards fair six flags mini vaca in hotel with 2 pools etc..the whole time his kids are whining and crying and dragging their feet! The sd literally almost knocked over a baby at an outing to get to her dad bec i was walking near him. Every outting turns into me saying lets go home bec they ruin it for everyone. Every weekend ss does something..lighters hitting..rude wont eat food cooked(even though its something he loved a month ago) etc and has a major blow out then blames his mom for not spending time with him..these things happen at home and he is blaming dad so instead of being punished for his behaviors he is getting hugs and guilty parents are letting things slide. ex wife is constantly having to be out in her place, they can not communicate without her bringing me or my kids up...last conv. its ok her 11 yr old punched my daughter in the face bec my daughter bit her daughter a year ago during a physical altercation. She then did a search of our area and found pedifiles near us(we did this before) she called 100 times wrote emails texts and so forth asking what measures were being taken etc. After explaining we already knew as well as the ones in her area and that the children are never ALONE here she still continued to call. The ac broke at her house and she demanded my dh come fix it in may! he told her to change the batteries on the wall piece and gave her a referral to his friend. After a month of harrassing emails and texts she called the guy and he changed the battery. She has told the children and said numerous times in front of me that dh abandoned his children and her. they broke up bec on a family vaca she met and slept with another man and wanted an open relationship. she told her children he left them for me!But she kicked him out. He pays the mortgage and all of the bills including the fast food budget and fun stuff. as well as provides all their clothing for their visits. Anything we buy gets taken home and we have to constantly buy new clothes bec she will not return them. She says the clothes are second hand and throws them out. I honestly am ready to leave my husband over this crap. I love him and I really know in my heart he is the one, but I am only one person and have a right to be at peace. I work long shifts and my only real day off is sat. Her new thing is you need to spend time with your real kids on my weekend at my house for a few hours, but just the son? I dont understand it. My little ones are in bed at 7 and daughter in her own room. His son sits in my bedroom with him and they play videogames while im at work. they go to a movie..alone at least once a month. Isnt that qt? Every weekend she wants to know what were doing where were going..as if the visits with dh are a field trip or for their entertainment. When we do stay home they want nothing to do with dh..they just wanna watch tv. Then they go home and we get taxed with phone calls. Why was my daughter told she couldnt eat in her room at 2 am, why does your wife think she can tell my kids to be appreciative and say thankyou, these are my kids and you are torturing them.They need just you not your wife and her kids, these are your children your only children and you need to stop neglecting them. What more can we do..shes either gonna get beat up or im gettin divorced!