The homecoming dress
So, my DD is a freshman in HS, and she's excited to go to homecoming with a group of her friends. I've always felt she was a little socially stunted so I'm thrilled she even wants to go. While at her dads she sent me pics from her phone in 3 dresses, that night she brought them home to try on so I could see them in person. She is 5'6" 116 lbs. with a very trim figure. None of the three dresses fit her well at all, 2 were size medium and one was a Large. They'd borrowed 2 from a friend and bought one online. None were stellar, so I offered her to keep looking.
The next weekend, my mom and I took her out to try on dresses. She sent her Dad a pic and he got all upset texting her "why are you trying on dresses, we went out of our way to get you a dress, I'm done your Mom can do it all." Of course she was upset, didn't want to like anything she tried on because she didn't want to upset her dad any further. Grammy finally got her to relax, she tried on 2 dozen dresses between 3 stores, she had a great time, felt pretty and she fell in love with a dress, I bought it for her.
This weekend she goes to her Dads and when I picked her up tonight she burst into tears, she had a horrible weekend. Her Dad yelled at her, her SM wouldn't talk to her, they took away her phone and made her go to bed early...all because she chose a different dress.
Am I crazy or are they missing the point? Her SM says it's her first dance she doesn't need to go try on 20 dresses. I say that's exactly why she deserves the experience of trying on 20 dresses. She should feel pretty, and confident, and comfortable in what she's wearing.
I can't believe they are being so immature about this.
I can't understand why it's more important to them that she wear a dress they acquired as opposed to the one she feels the best in.
I told DD last weekend if her Dad gave her a bad time, I'd be happy to take it up with him. She doesn't want me to talk to him about it because she's afraid he'll get more mad at her, and she doesn't want him and I to fight.
How do I encourage her to stand up for herself? I'm so afraid she'll wear the drab gray dress that's too big just to make him happy. She's so crushed and stunned he yelled at her.