straight back into it!
Hi guys, it's been a while since I posted anything, we've had some peaceful times :-)
With BM being pregnant again she was too busy with everything to also focus on us, it was wonderful.
BM has just had another baby so there's 2 little ones now. The trouble with her fiancee has resulted in him being moved out into an apartment 2 months ago. But here's the thing: BM and fiancee are still 'together', it's just working better when he's got his own space.
We thought he left and she was feeding the skids some b-cr*p about a LAT-relationship to save face, but they actually are together still, how bizarre..
I think this is very much about control, the relationship is not working out, but rather than splitting up and risking 'losing' the babies to him this is a much more beneficial solution. This way she controls when he can see his kids, she can 'use' them against him when it suits AND she gets ALL his money, not just child support. Oh and let's not forget 'single parent benefits'. Ten years ago she did exactly the same thing with FDH, it didn't work then but hey; let's just do it all again!
Now that the baby is born it's straight back into it.
Last weekend when the skids were with us BM rang them to let them know that there was on open day at the Discovery Centre and she'd take them if they were not with us. After the phonecall the skids were sulking, and even though we let them go with BM every single time, they still behave as if we are keeping them away from her. So also this time FDH told the skids to organise it with BM if they'd like to go, they don't have to miss out. Skids ring BM, BM takes the whole Sunday from us and picks the skids up at 11am.
Fast forward to last Tuesday, we went to see the girls play sports. We asked if they had fun at the open day and we already knew the answer: they didn't go. Surprise surprise. BM said it looked very busy when they drove past and it was too much with 2 babies so they went home instead.
Next time the girls come we celebrate FDH's birthday. BM has already put some pressure on them to come with her to the city to go and see granddad..
After a relatively quiet time it's hard to get back into all this disruption and general chaos, I need to gear myelf up again :-(
And yes I know we could put our foot down and tell BM 'No' organise things on your own weekend, but the more we fight it the harder she fights back and the more the skids suffer. We've tried it, it's not worth it, so we're going to let them go. I just needed to vent, thanks guys