I am betting someone somewhere has already posted about this, but I am too tired to scroll through everything to find. I have a DD who turns 2 in a few weeks, I also have a SS who is 7. My DH and I have decided to start trying for another child. If/when we get pregnant, how should we handle telling SS and BM? I am afraid that if we say something to BM when she has SS then she will instantly tell him. But if she ends up hearing it from SS then I am sure she will flip out. I guess I just don't know exactly what the etiquette is.