mistihayesOctober 10, 2009

I'm sorry Dotz to hear about your DH. My heart just goes out to you. The days of suffering ahead will test your being. I hope you & your DH have many good days & only a few bad. You're a strong lady & your DH is a blessed man to have you in his life. I'd love to have someone like you in my Dad's life. Although, I shouldn't want that for any woman(JK). Love my Dad dearly, just not good marriage material. Hugs & prayers to you Dotz

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Hey Misti!! How are you? Boys getting big I ll bet!!! Is DH behaving? LOL Hows the step situation going?DH went for a pain block yesterday, got me up early this AM, not a happy camper..Thank you so much for all your kind thoughts and wishes. Bet your dad is not all bad, he raised you didnt he? LOL Keep in touch, please, think of you often XXOO Dotz

    Bookmark   October 11, 2009 at 9:45AM
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Sorry to hear about hubby ....

I have to say it was very nice of you to extend an olive branch to you know who and for it to be ignored.

with all you are going through to take the time to try and help her with her feelings (loneliness etc.) you are a wonderful woman the kids and the ex who cares ... take care of YOU and your hubby ... let them worry about the rest.

You have done enough for them.

    Bookmark   October 11, 2009 at 12:51PM
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And how very nice of you to say that :) And as for the EX, would LOVE to just summon up the courage to say Screw you LOL, but I dont want DH to get slugged first and me second, she is a VERY volatile individual LOL Thanks again Dotz

    Bookmark   October 12, 2009 at 2:00PM
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Hey Dotz,
I hope your day is going well. There is hurt that shouldn't be happening when one is ill. You want to be surrounded by loved ones. I'm so glad your DH has you. Divorce can really bring out the ulgies in people. I'm sorry & if I could stretch my arms to wherever you're at, I would. Well if you were here I'd have you covered in little boy kisses that are almost smothering.
My family is doing really good. DH is working his 3 12's so I get alot of help with the boys. Couldn't ask for a better Dad for my kids(superheroes). My 3 little boys believe they are superheroes that are always defeating the "bad guys". They go to bed discussing how they will defeat them when they wake up.
We are going to welcome a new addition into the family in April/May. DH is like the more the merrier & giving out High 5s & I'm looking at the pink lines thinking WOW, I'm going to be really busy again. To me, babies are hard work(precious), toddlers/preschoolers are much easier & just the funniest little creatures around.
Well Ms Dotz hang in there & know you have my fullest compassion & admiration. Hugs!

    Bookmark   October 14, 2009 at 4:17PM
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Congratulations, Misti! Even though you weren't really telling all of us :) LOL!

    Bookmark   October 14, 2009 at 5:01PM
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Misti!! A new baby!!! Great news!! I am so happy for you!!!LOL Would pay big money to be smothered in kisses from little boys!! LOL..Reminds me, I had a death in my family once and one of my friends said, are you OK? And I said I need a baby and a dog.. Still feel like thats what I need....Oh I SO remember the Superhero days!! Remember HeMan? My lil guy had the sword inside the back of his shirt 24/7!!When it broke in half, he cried all night, first thing in the AM had to run out for a new one..All they had left was Skeletor, but they were identical, I ripped off the packaging and all was well again LOL Glad to hear all is well, cant wait to hear more baby news as it progresses!!! I m going to post a little story for you below, geez, so odd I thought of you when this happened, but I know I have told you about my SIL before..

    Bookmark   October 14, 2009 at 6:26PM
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Hi Misti, wanted above seperate from good wishes...But I thought of you when SIL related this to me..SO last weekend, SIL flew in to stay with me for a 26K race in my city (shes originally from here)to raise money for the Childrens home that her daughter spent her last year in..Its a home for profoundly handicapped children, SILs daughter could not walk , talk was blind...SIL has a soft spot for the wonderful care her DD got here, and also has a relative of hers there now..So she , a woman in her mid fifties, decided to train, for four months, she is NOT a runner, and do this for DD(In memory) and relative, the home is in dire need of money, privately funded. I was worried sick about her, that she may get hurt, fall, pass out, break something, she is NOT a runner...Any way, here is her account of the race...She did well at first, keeping pace with some runners, passing others, and finally at Mile 15, as she calls it, she hit the wall, could not go a bit further and a young girl came up and fell in place beside her and started to talk to her, asked about her family, why she was running, and told her SHE had a relative in the same Home...She encouraged SIL the rest of the way and SIL said, I can do this, and felt this young girl was a Godsend, kept her going, never left her the next 10 miles, never leaving her side, like other runners had come and gone....ANYWAY, FOUR HUNDRED YARDS from the FINISH LINE, the girl said, YOU GO, FINISH STRONG YOU WILL BE FINE, and left the race!!! Walked off the course!!!! Disappeared from her sight!!!! Wouldnt you think if you raced 26 miles, you d go 400 yards for your medal???? So strange...SIL said she must have been my guardian angel..I ve been thinking about it since she left a few days ago...Just so odd the girl didnt cross and get her medal..So, anyway, was thinking about you Misti, and thought you might enjoy the story...

    Bookmark   October 14, 2009 at 6:50PM
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Ashley, Thank you for the congrats. Those are always appreciated.
Dotz, I have a story to tell you but I have to transfer the photo to photobucket first. I have to tell the story with the photo. It's amazing & leaves me shaking my head that how can this be happening.
I got chills reading what you wrote above. I remember you telling me of your SIL & the tragedy she has lived with. Can you believe the endurance that woman has to continue life at its fullest? She's an inspiration to all. I admire her strength, courage, & determination to not give up.
Do you have facebook? There is a video on there that is going around called, "A Father's Amazing Love". It's beautiful if you get the opportunity to watch it. I bawled the whole time. I'll look on youtube too & see if it's there.
Thank you Dotz for being you. And yes, I enjoyed the story very much.

    Bookmark   October 14, 2009 at 8:16PM
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Misti, Looking forward to your story and photo, if you d rather keep it private, I ll send you my email address...Wow, saw the video, Fathers Amazing Love on Youtube, sending it to SIL right now..She will love it..(I cried too :) )

    Bookmark   October 15, 2009 at 10:51AM
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I hope the picture shows up. Sorry it's so long.
It was a few days before Mother's Day. It's a celebrated day for us. And it's that way because Brittani would always make me something special. Well we had taken the boys to the mall & each received a balloon from customer service, a yellow, blue, & orange balloon. While we were driving home Christian's blue balloon popped. He was heartbroken, couldn't soothe him w/ promises of a new balloon, screamed at the top of his lungs over this balloon. He was thrashing in his carseat. And Daddy yells, "You're balloon is gone & it's not coming back". Travis didn't know it but I had really been missing Brittani & thinking about her & as Christian was crying so hard I'm like that's how I was w/ Brittani, unconsolable. And when he yelled that back to Christian, it kind of stunned me too. Well we got home & I made my other 2 boys leave their balloons at the squirrel feeder & told them we'll just enjoy looking at the 2 balloons from our livingroom window. So, I hang up the 2 balloons & it only takes a minute to walk in the house & up the stairs. We all went right to the window & their was a pink balloon sitting at the base of the tree. Pink was Brittani's color. Travis was amazed. I was speechless. I ran outside searched the neighborhood for another pink balloon. This was midweek, no parties around, no balloons anywhere. Now how can this pink balloon just show up at the exact time & sit at the base of the tree where I hung up my boys' balloons? I'm a very alert person & would have seen a pink balloon if it had been in the yard prior to me hanging up the boys' balloons. It just sat right there. It was like Brittani saying, "No, I'm not here in the way you might think, but I'm here for you."

    Bookmark   October 15, 2009 at 12:45PM
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Wow, Misti. That is soooo cool. What a special way for your little angel to let you know her spirit is always around you!

I have NEVER found a "randon balloon" in my front yard! EVER.

I am the first to be skeptical, but that is just TOO coincidental for me!

I definitey believe your little girl is with you always!

    Bookmark   October 15, 2009 at 12:57PM
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Thanks Love! Many hopeful prayers your way. We did IVF w/ my twins & when I read your hopes, I can only think positive. Goodluck to you & yours. It's definetly an amazing adventure.

    Bookmark   October 15, 2009 at 1:21PM
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Misti, I am not one bit surprised that Brit wants to give you a sign.. I love this!!! My kids(niece and nephew) give me signs now and then, no one can understand this like we do.....I wish there was a forum were people could talk about this without some one thinking you were dreaming these things up!!!!

    Bookmark   October 15, 2009 at 11:00PM
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