"my bad", appologies that only mean, "I'm sorry I got caught"
Between my husband and I, we have 5 children. To me: BS-18; SS-14; SS-13; BS-12; BD-10. My kids adore my husband and honor his every word. His children could care less about anything, especially me. My authority as the wife and mother of this home means nothing. I'm not trying to replace their mother. I respect that they do have a mother. But when they are with us, they do need to adhere to the rules of the home just like everyone else. But they don't. They are rude, inconsiderate, and hateful.
Very recently, my husband went on a hunting trip. The boys went with him. They were only with him over the weekend because of school. When he brought them back, I was alone with all 5 for several days. I discovered how much my patience would be tested. I lived a nighmare. I told him that he will never bring them back early to be with me alone, because I can't handle it.
I love my husband so much and refuse to give up. But I am wondering where I am going to find any more patience. I have no clue how to communicate with these boys to the point that our home is simply civil.
Some background...their mother is an addict and alcoholic. She has been in rehab 4 times, twice this year. She has also attempted suicide 2 times this year. Once when the boys were visiting her.
I work very hard to treat all 5 the same. No favorites. But I am quickly getting to the point that I just don't care any more.
The best is when they get caught doing something they know they are not supposed to and their instant response is "My Bad". When you look at them, they just grin back at you. They are not sorry for anything. They are just sorry they got caught.
Does anyone have any suggestions?