Why did you re-marry? Would you do it again?
According to one website's statistics: In America, over 50% of families are remarried or re-coupled, one out of two marriages ends in divorce (and 75% remarry) and the average marriage only lasts seven years. Over 75% of career women who married a man with children from a previous union stated: "if they had do it again they would NOT marry a man with children." Stepfamily Statistics
Has it been worth it? Do you think your children are better for having a blended family? Sometimes I wonder. I know that my DH, for all his efforts, will not have the biological bond with my daughter than enables true closeness. My poor DH has the pain of having both of his daughters, bio and step, refer to their "dad" and not mean him. Since his DD grew up with mom and sd, and my EX and I have made a concentrated effort to maintain their relationship, my DH is kind-of odd-dad-out.
I read some of the horror stories here and I wonder if the stepmothers think the father they married was really worth the hassle that comes with adding so many variables to the family. Add one kid with emotional problems, one kid with social issues, or diet issues, and then put in the bio-mother with her issues, and her issues about the kid's issues and her mother/father/sister/family issues and I feel like I'm going crazy and I'm not even living it!!!
So I'm curious if people think they made the right choice. Knowing now what you do about the horrors of step-families do you think you'd take it on? Do you think this will get any better? How do you "build" a family?