Is it better when step kids are Older or Younger?
I have been wondering about this and like to get everyone's opinion on this.
My boyfriend has a son that is 8 years old. I'm a more strict parent and he's a more lax parent.
Because of issues were we don't always see eye to eye on parenting, I have put off moving in together for the indefinite future. My girlfriend has said that maybe when my BF's son gets a little older he won't be so hyper, will be better behaved and we can reconsider moving in together.
This got me thinking, in a blended family is it better when the steps kids are older or younger? I imagine all ages have different sets of problems and it may not get better just because the kids get older. The 8 year old that didn't want to listen and beat up his step sisters may grow into a teen who doesn't want to get a job and move out. (not saying that's what happening in my case, just giving an example)
So what does everyone think: when you and your significant other have different parenting philosophies, have you found it easier for everyone to get along if you got married or started living together when the kids were very young, or was it easier when the kids were older, say mid to older teen years?