When the Two Houses Have Different Belief Systems
Last night I composed a long message but it disappeared--are there topics that are off-limits? I am new to this forum so I might be goofing up using the text editor!
I'll try again, more briefly this time. Just because my last post was about how friendly BM is to my DH, last night they had their first rather unpleasant discussion in a very long time, and I was wondering if any of you experienced ladies have dealt with this challenge.
DH and I are both non-theists, as are my ex and his wife. BM is very religious now (her new DH is a theology professor). Their diverging cosmology was a big factor in my DH and BM's divorce. It's been a bit awkward because of the disparity in how the two sets of kids have been raised.
We assured BM early on that we would never make any negative comments about any religion in front of the girls, nor keep them from attending religious events, etc., and we have stuck to that.
Well, BM called last night and apparently she asked both girls at their respective colleges whether they were attending church and both said no. SD1, in addition, said that (BM's words) she believes that gods are mythological constructs (or something like that). BM is hopping mad and called my DH to chew him out about it!
She is also blaming my kids, claiming they have had "long discussions" with the girls about religion. I've always told my kids to avoid that topic with them, but they probably didn't--kids talk about stuff like that.
Well, if I did believe in prayer, I'd say my grousing about BM being overly friendly was handled nicely, at least, ha.
Anyway, I was wondering if in any of your stepfamily systems, you have a conflict like this?