2007 - Fiance' comes to St Louis. We spend Christmas eve w/my adult kids in St Louis and Christmas morning we get on a plane back to Toledo. I make dinner for his kids - they stay for 2 hours and go home to their mother.
2008 - Fiance' chooses to stay in Toledo. I go to St Louis to spend Christmas Eve w/adult kids and grandchild. Christmas morning I head back to Toledo. I make dinner for his kids and extended family.
His kids: Ages 17, 22, 23
My kids: Ages 29, 27
2009 - I decided to go to Florida for Christmas this year. Fiance' has had a year to get his head and heart around this idea. My kids were informed last year that I would not be coming to St Louis in 2009. Fiance' now stalling ... says he wants to be with his kids for the holiday. And before he makes a decision, he needs to discuss it with his oldest daughter. ::UGH::
We've been living together for 1.5 years - only see his girls when they come home from college (they stay with their mother) and the teenage boy comes around only with his sisters. I'm thinking he is choosing his kids over me. Is that possible? And if he's choosing his kids over me now ... will he keep doing that when we are married?