Problems with stepfather
My husband and I are considering estrangement from his stepfather. This man can be very charming and has been generous to us over the years, but at the same time he can be emotionally and mentally abusive. My husband finally had enough of this treatment, and although they've been sparring, my husband has said repeatedly that he wants us to get past this and be a family, but then his stepfather sent the most hateful, mean-spirited, spiteful, demeaning, disheartening e-mail to my husband (and me). I could never imagine saying such things to anyone, and I don't think there's any chance of reconciliation now. Meanwhile, my MIL is acting like there's nothing she can do about it, blaming my husband (somehow) while at the same time acting helpless. Here are my questions:
1. How do we maintain a relationship with my MIL while at the same time becoming estranged from the stepfather? This is what my husband wants, regardless of her treatment of him.
2. How do we explain this to our young children?
I'd appreciate any feedback. Thanks for reading.