Wow... just Wow!
I guess yesterday was BM's birthday & SD called her but she (BM) couldn't talk because she was out to dinner at Applebee's. She said she would call her back but didn't. SD has been telling everyone all week (except me of course) that they are going camping this weekend. BM has also been telling DH all weekend that she made a payment to DCSS & asking if he got it yet?
Well, today he got it by direct deposit. $158. Last week, I sent her a text message telling her if she didn't pay me for the expenses I paid from my separate, personal accounts, that I was going to take her to court & she can explain to the Judge why she thinks it's okay to let me pay for HER daughter since she thinks I am "abusing" her kid. She told me she would send it Thursday. We'll see. LOL, I JUST got a text from her that she JUST got her check today & wants to know if I want her to give it to DH on Monday when he picks up SD. Um, no. Mail it... DH does not want to talk to her more than he needs to. (then she reminded me that Monday is a holiday so there's no mail... DUH!! It's LABOR day... those of us that work know all about it! JEEZ!!!)
Anyway, DH got the child support payment today. $158! And when BM's mother picked up SD from school & SD was informed the plans to go camping were canceled because BM has no money, SD apparently told BM what she thinks of it... told her that she just wants to sit around & do nothing all the time! Well, BM called DH and told him that she does not want SD this weekend if she's going to have that attitude & talk to her like that! DH says he told her that she needs to deal with her own daughter, told her that SD has a lot of resentment for her leaving, having the new baby... replacing her & not spending hardly any time with her... sending her to stay with BF's ex...etc. He gave no sympathy to BM & told her she created this problem, not him. So, SD went to BM's. (as if that isn't enough, one of BM's "prized" dogs died last week & she was waiting until SD got there to tell her)
Honestly, I don't know how to feel. I'm torn between sad for SD... another let down from her mom & her mom's answer is to push her further away when that's what caused the problem to begin with. On the other hand, BM is getting what she deserves... and there's a part of me that wants to get joy or at least satisfaction from that, but it's not there. Just sadness about the whole situation.