Tired of my stepdaughters Sh**.... Bathroom issues
Alright so I have been with my fiancee for a year plus and well we have overcome many obstacles but this 1 in particular is getting into something bigger and as it seems unstoppable. I have 3 step daughters, 2 that live with us and one with the paternal grandmother....(long story). So now before we got together she told me that her youngest..Jennifer has a bathroom problem, she doesnt use the toilet all the time and sometimes goes to the bathroom in her pants and when she sleeps. So here I am thinking we are dealing with a bed wetter and a weak bladder. Oh boy was I wrong. I started to closely observe Jennifer's bathroom habits when she had an "accident" as she calls them and what she was doing and all of that.... I started to sense a pattern, she gets in trouble and she sneaks away and squats and next thing u know shes dirty. She doesnt get her way and boom... So I talk to her mother my fiancee and I ask her whats going on. She tells me Jenny up until 3 yrs ago would drop her pants and go on her bedroom rug, her going in her pants wasnt acceptable but better then that. Doctors all told her that shed stop when she was ready and even Jennifers grandmother said its OK because she too had this problem as a child. (Jenny is grandmas girl)
Now heres the best part she is 9 years old 4th grade and DOESNT do it at school. She has a tiny wiping problem when she does take the initiative to use the toilet THATS the least of my worries at the moment. I havent known her without a Urinary Tract infection, she always has an odor of urine around her and she doesnt seem to care. she poops and pees herself while awake and asleep. Her claim to fame is that she cannot feel it, but the doctors all said shes all good nothings wrong she does feel it. Besides the fact that she does this to herself she doesnt take off the underwear and pants clean herself up and bring the dirty stuff to the laundry,she will either sit in it or take it off and hide it under her pillows, toys, stuffed animals etc weve done more cleaning and steaming of her room then I have ever imagined. We live in a new home and we spoke with her on how she cant bring this problem here from the old home.....she said she understood and now here we are, she always has dirty underwear and they are always hidden or still on her. I do the laundry so when she doesnt hide it I am lucky enough to get it and its not really fair in my opinion. We have tried talking to her about it, telling her its not good or healthy, nothing seems to impact her. We have even put her in diapers (childrens obviously)....its all in one ear and out the other or doesnt even make a difference. I am in fear for the health of my other SD, my fiancee and myself and of course Jennifer and our pets.
How do I get her to STOP!!!!