To go or not to go
Time for another one of those stepmother decisions. I sure thought they would end when the kids were in college. How naive I was! We agreed that DH and I would drive YSD back to college over the weekend. We planned to make a long weekend of it and stay at a nice location near her school after dropping her at the dorm. Then Tuesday we would attend a presentation that parents are invited to about a program she's participating in, and head home. BM's DH is also a professor and could not get away, so they were going to visit YSD's college later this fall and spend some time with her.
Saturday BM called. She had received the materials for the presentation, and decided it looked really nice and she wants to go also. Here's the main thing: for part of the presentation, each student only gets two guest spaces (it's a boat ride thing). YSD is thrilled that BM wants to come. She asked if we could all ride down there together.
I know you guys will say too bad, BM should get her own ride, but it would be awkward to tell BM that. And because there are two of us, YSD would feel obligated to ride with BM, and I know my husband was so looking forward to spending that last whole day with YSD so I don't want to be in the position of taking that away from him.
First of all I am kind of disgusted that BM wants to go there, check into a B&B by campus and hang out with SD that whole weekend, as I know SD had plans with her friends. But, that's their problem to work out. The main thing for me was, this was going to be a family thing for the three of us and that's wrecked, and a romantic two-night stay for DH and me at a place we enjoy. But ladies, I'm not sure the romance will be there when I am thinking about DH and BM getting on that boat Tuesday with SD while I hang out at the student union. Ugh.
And my DH, he is so good at making things my problem. He is suggesting that BM and I go on the boat ride and he stay behind. No! I know how much he was looking forward to it. If he doesn't go, it will be just to spare my feelings and to avoid spending time with BM, who makes him so uncomfortable.
Are there any sneaky tricks I am overlooking that will make this anything less than a wasted weekend?