I work full time and make enough money to support a family of 4. For 2 years my boyfriend of 3 yrs and his 2 boys (8 and 5 now) lived with us and I had a majority of the financial responsibility on my shoulders. Their mom is on welfare and has 2 other kids. My boyfriend has been trying to start his own business which hasn't been successful and he is in debt to me and creditors. If he was on his own, he would not be able to have his kids with him or have his business. My family even helps with the kids and have accepted them as family. He doesn't believe he can get a regular 9-5 type job because he needs to stay home and take care of the kids while I am at work (one is in 3rd grade the other attends half a day kindergarten). He doesn't feel there are options for him- i have suggested a night job, part time job, making sacrifices so he could financially support his family. I told him I could not be depended on for money (I pay all household expenses, gifts, clothes, etc) and that his kids could no longer live with us because 1. our relationship is not stable 2. he can not financially take care of them. He continues to feel that it is not a problem that I should be financial responsible for them since we are a "family". He doesn't believe I "want them" and feels like I resent them, but my true resentment lies in his irresponsibility. I tell him this but it does not get through. Does anyone else bear the financial responsibility of their step kids? Do you feel this is ok? His kids do not have health insurance, can't join school sports because of this. I would love to involve them in a lot of after school and extra curricular activities, but it would come out of my paycheck, not their dads. Is it fair? I love his kids as if they were my own (I do not have biologicial kids), but if I truly did, would that mean I should be financial responsible for them? I am truly confused.