on subject of teasing 'shaping their personalities'
I found it in someone's post on parents forum about teasing. amen to "you are shaping their personalities". Please don't get fooled by the fact that your kids/stepkids are laughing with you. don't. damage is done no matter if they laugh with you or cry.
i also want to add that maybe some people think it is OK because that's how their parents treated them, please don't repeat the cycle, it is narcissistic behavior
here it is, thanks to whoever posted it.
"I grew up a scared child, always fearing the unknown.I dont have many friends. Maybe one true friend..I am very hard to get to know. I dont do well in social situations. I think I grew up always waiting for the other shoe to drop and I cant break the cycle. Please Dont tease your children for a laugh at their expense. You are shaping their personalities!"