BM had her 48 hour visitation this past weekend. As soon as we pulled up to pick him up we could tell something was seriously wrong. SS8 got into the car and curled up in a ball, BM was screaming at DH about how SS was rude and disrespectful all weekend and she'd had to spank him and DH needed to do something about it. He said he'd talk to SS and we got out of there.
As soon as we pulled out SS burst into tears; finally we got out of him that apparently he had fallen on a gravel driveway and started crying; BM came up behind him and wanted a hug, he said no, he didn't want a hug because he was hurt - so she started hitting his behind. We got him home, cleaned up, fed, tucked in bed, etc. and DH called BM.
She confirmed SS's story. Said he was rude and disrespectful all the time, she'd had enough and would "crack his ass" if and when he needed it, she was done with it and that he needed to be disciplined. When asked what the rude and disrespectful behavior was, she said that SS kept telling her about things he'd gotten to do with us that she can't afford to do, and that he is not allowed to refer to me as his "step-mom" because it hurts her feelings - I am to be called either Mattie or Dad's Wife. And that it was rude and disrespectful of him not to hug her.
I am so scared. SS has his counselor tonight and I am hoping and praying that maybe the counselor will feel that something needs to be done, and DH is contacting the attorney. His counselor has been working with SS on speaking up for himself and obviously it is going horribly wrong (I don't blame the counselor because she's supposed to be helping SS and couldn't have realized what was going to happen). I don't know what will happen when he goes up again and what she might decide is "disrespectful" and what she will do to him. Please pray for SS if you don't mind. I really feel like this situation is deteriorating rapidly.