A breakthrough with my DH!

sassymom12August 21, 2009

My DH has been guilt parenting for a long time now. And today he didn't.

A little history: BM didn't take care of SD when DH traveled for work. Cheated on him with SD in the house. When he kicked her out, he felt bad for SD...there started the guilty parenting.She was the boss of him & the house.

So that's been a big issue since we've been together.

I wouldn't let her boss me around & she didn't like it one bit. Other issues with her like 4hr long temper tantrums, trying to run away,stealing,lying,hitting etc...all this & she's only 9!

Anyway,since we got married it's gotten worse. She's only nice when she wants something from me. I took her & DD shopping for clothes last night & she was so sweet & I actually enjoyed being with her. Then today when I was on the ph with my boss,she tried interupting.I put up a 1min sign & she got mad. When she was walking away my dog was in front of her & instead of walking around him, she kneed him, HARD in his side.I sent her to her room until DH got home(30min). I went in to ask her why she did that & she said she didn't do it,didn't see the dog,was walking backwards, any excuse & that I always blame her. Nevermind that I watched her do it & she was a foot in front of me. As I was leaving the room she threw her brush against the wall.Asked why, she said "because I can & I can throw anything I want to!" Oh no you can't...so I took throwable objects out of her room. She didn't care.

So I called DH to let him know & he asked if I took care of it,said I did & then the breakthrough....he asked "What would you like me to do when I get home?" I asked him to please back me up & follow through. When he got home he told SD that she is to show respect & not behave like that & that's the last time they'll have this conversation(same one for 2.5yrs)! And agrees with her punishment. Good job DH not opting out of the hard parenting! Proud wife!

Thank you for reporting this comment. Undo
sylviatexas1

glad you're happy, but
"agrees with her punishment",
which is...what?

being told that she has to behave?

Sometimes we haven't really broken through a thick wall, we've just taken a baby step.

I wish you the best.

ps:
*Nobody* better kick my dog.
That hairbrush would likely have been applied to her behind right then;
to heck with waiting for daddy to get home.
Daddy could deal with me when he arrived.

    Bookmark   August 24, 2009 at 3:25PM
Thank you for reporting this comment. Undo
ashley1979

"That hairbrush would likely have been applied to her behind right then;
to heck with waiting for daddy to get home.
Daddy could deal with me when he arrived. "

LOL! Sylvia - my thoughts exactly!

    Bookmark   August 24, 2009 at 6:23PM
Sign Up to comment
More Discussions
If I could tell mothers of adult stepchildren anything, Part 2
It seems my five-year-old topic has reached its limit...
lilysuzanne40
Too much?? advice please
Hi. I am a Mum of 2- one being a step child, I am 27...
mummykim
Post Partum Depression Because of Step-Grandmother?
I have a 5 year old boy and a 4 month old girl. I was...
CarolinaMom36
New- Really need help..
Hi I am new here but hoping as people in the same...
runrun2
Need advice please....stepson!
I am 25 and I think I have had enough of my 9 year...
mommy08
Sponsored Products
Le Corbusier LC2 Style Armchair-White - 100% Italian Leather
IFN Modern
Cocoa My Life 25" Spinner
$375.00 | Horchow
My World Giddy Up 3-piece Quilt Set
Overstock.com
Moooi | Lolita Suspension Light
$715.00 | YLighting
Rocker Lounge Chair in White
$160.00 | LexMod
Pink 'My 1st Birthday' Cake Frame
$8.99 | zulily
Fun Furnishings My First Micro Chair - 60247
$76.99 | Hayneedle
Van Teal My Wheels Multicolor Orb Silver Table Lamp
Euro Style Lighting
People viewed this after searching for:
© 2015 Houzz Inc. Houzz® The new way to design your home™