BM took *SD* and moved to another state without telling us!
So my boyfriend called to speak with his daughter on Tuesday night, only to find out from BM's sister that mom came with her boyfriend and took all of their things and aren't coming back. Now, this worries me and worries my BF obviously. Mom never speaks with him about anything to do with their daughter... and now she just took her and left? She has been telling my BF that she someday will be moving to another state and getting married to her boyfriend but she never gives any details. Now we find out through the grapevine that it has already happened. She seems to think that their daughter doesn't need her father. She even has her daughter calling this guy daddy.
My boyfriend is the most caring, loving father and is much more responsible with his daughter than her mother. If you read my last post about my *SD* not liking me, I explained some of BM's behavior in that post. Her deciding to stay at the beach for a week and leaving her daughter with her parents without so much as a word to anyone letting them know what is going on. Never receiving her daughter when we drop her off on weekends... barely even seeing her daughter all week apart from dropping her off at school, and leaving her daughter with friends or family but without asking if they want to babysit. She just leaves, even during the week when her daughter has school and nobody to bring her.
She didn't even enroll her daughter in school... she was just sitting at home all day watching tv with at her grandparents, although her grandparents didn't really want to watch her.
Now she is in another state, without my boyfriends permission and in the care of a flaky mother. It scares me.
My boyfriend has gone to the social workers office in the past and they told him they couldn't physically take the girl away from her mother unless she was homeless, a prostitute or on drugs... which of course she isn't... she just is unstable. Now he made another appointment this morning and is speaking to a lawyer tomorrow morning, hopefully they can do something.
I seemed to have upset him when I said that BM was crazy for taking their daughter without even saying anything to him. He didn't even say a word to respond. And then when he spoke to her finally on the phone he didn't even want to tell me what she said. He told me that she said a bunch of nothing. Then I hear him talking to a friend of MINE telling her all about what happened. I don't know how to be supportive in this situation. I love them both so much and want to help them in any way I can but he seems to want to shut me out of this whole thing, yet still have his daughter come and live with us. What can I do?