Not Sure Where This Fits in
I was going to post this on the marriage forum but it does not seem like it gets much traffic. Since I am part of a stepfamily situation I felt that this forum was also well suited for my post. I have posted on here before with problems in dealing with our blended family. I have taken your advice and our family seemed to be finally blending well. For the last few months I have felt like our marriage is back on track and like everything is falling into place with the children and house rules and such. (we have been married almost 3 years and together a total of 5 years)
Anyways the problem I am now faced with is the internet. My dh has always been into looking at porn online and I really didn't care. It did not affect our bedroom life in any way and I figured everyone has a vice right? Well today my dh was expecting some important e-mail and would not have computer access all day at work because of maintenance on the computers or something. So he gave me his password and asked me to check throughout the day for it. Well I was not snooping and in his inbox I saw something that was disturbing. Right on the info line without even opening the e-mail it said something about his profile and password being ready for a sex and dating site!!!! So I clicked on the e-mail and used his login info from the e-mail to log in. What I saw was that my dh had made a profile. It had personal information, like his birthdate and sexual preferences. He put on there that he was interested in erotic conversations and possible discreet hook-ups (these were choices he checked not his own words).
I am so hurt. It shows he created this a week ago. He has not sent nor received any messages on there and he has not upgraded to a pay membership.
Now I don't know what to do. Part of me wants to confront him and tell him what this just did to my heart and my trust in him. Part of me wants to create a profile as well and attempt to converse with him and also check his profile on occasion since I have his log in info.
I never thought he would do something like create a profile on this type of sight. Now I am questioning if I do talk to him about it will he just create a new profile? Or use a different site without my knowledge?
I am upset and looking for any suggestions.