Just about done
I got up this morning and drove to the school to get a copy of my ss birth certificate and his social security card. BM has the originals of both those and we were never given a copy... school got them when he switched. School knows me because of my other two kids... so don't be going and having any fits here. Dh gives me full authority to do whatever.... so does BM... seeing that she asks me to do everything anyway.
I then drove these copies to my dh at work with the application for Title IV D. I asked him nicely to please please please call them today. We all know it takes time to get this going. Wage garnishment won't happen overnight. He then says he has to "research" how they enforce child support. OMG!!!! I told him... they either wage withhold or they tax intercept. AND... I told him it didn't matter if it was lethal injection, it still needed done. She isn't paying.
Ok... I know people... BUT... I have gone through this all before with ds11 sperm donor. Once they get away with not paying they just won't. As of tomorrow it's 11 weeks. In this time she's bought the new car, went to water park after water park, bought stupid expensive shoes, a stupid expensive cell phone, promised "magic mountain" for his birthday next month. It's all the "fun" things. While I went out and bought school supplies and clothes and school book fees.... and football registration this Saturday. PLUS... I (YES ME) get to drive the 2 1/2 hour drive this Saturday to pick him up. DH has to work and told her that... she asked for ME to do it. I'm ready to tell my dh... NOPE, I'm NOT doing it. I have to pay my hard earned money for gas to go pick him up. She hasn't paid a dime in over 2 months... why can't she just bring him all the way? Because heaven forbid we upset the little princess.
My dh sent me a text message today because the three kids at home went through three boxes of cereal allready this week and 2 bunches of bananas. He thinks we each need 2nd jobs. Well.... lets see. We'd be ok if I hadn't went and spent all that money on ss.... or if we'd just get the little bit she owes us. He is always complaining that we are broke yet he won't say... "when can I expect this payment?".... cause again... can't upset her. But me... who the f cares.
My kids suffer in the end cause we always have to work around her and her schedule or her non payment. DH expects me to stand up to ds16's bd... but he won't budge and call the damn office to get an intake appointment. I've already put up with 10 years of her... I don't think I can continue.
Just knowing that she's ruined everything we fixed in the last year over the past 7 weeks has me a mess. I'm sure ss will come back with attitude and selfishness. OMG.... I'm just done.