anyone like their step-kids?
I was reading a lot of negative thoughts on step relationships on these posts, anyone have good luck?
I have a step-son who is 8 (was 5 when we moved in together). I love him on my own but do get jelouse of his dads attention. We dont have our own kids and dont plan to. His son always loved me, especially since I did things with him more than his own mom like walks, cooking, playing cars. He yelled at me a couple times but his Dad but him in line to treat me with respect even if he doesnt agree with me either.
The ex tried causing fights but we now both ignore her.
His son always offers to help me around the house he understands not having money sometimes and doesnt mind. His Dad actually used to get jelouse that he would want to spend time doing things with me and not him.
It was basically all compromise to get to this point. he spoiled his son, no bedtimes etc... It was hard to get these things changed but we bent in the middle, one night bed at 8:30-9 one night movie night and we stay up and he can fall asleep on the couch
I think you must love someone as much as your child which doesnt happen often and you can make it work via discussions but if you truly dont the child will always come first not as an equal.
For those who may be down I love my step-dad more than my real dad who was nothing but a let down when I got older. I have had my fights and treated my step-dad very bad at times but he has always loved me as he did his own daughter and even when him and my mom split up for a few years and I wasnt allowed to contact him she went back to him to find all of my picture still on his mantel. We are now as close as ever and it is all because he loved me and spent time with me.