Forget the damn pants!!! It's OVER!!! Finally!
Well, it's finally OVER... well almost!
We went to court today. BM showed up with her attorney. She tried a last ditch effort last week to get the court date changed to around October. She was supposed to arrange an evaluation since June 1st. She didn't do anything and SD spent most of summer with grandma. So last week on Tuesday, she tried to get our attorney to agree to a continuance because the evaluation was not done. We said no way, SD starts school in a couple of weeks and she hasn't done anything so she can go explain why she had all summer and did nothing.
So, we get to the courthouse and she walks up to MIL, who came with DH. She tells her "did you see SD's hair?" and MIL says no. BM tells her it's cut really short. MIL tells her "why do you keep doing that?" in a disgusted tone and BM went and sat down. (BM was trying to rub it in that she chopped all SD's hair off again and I guess she didn't expect MIL to call her on it) Anyways, we get into the courtroom and their case is called.
We asked for a dismissal and said she can refile when she's ready to do the evaluation. Our attorney says she has had all summer, has done nothing and besides, SD has been with grandma a significant part of summer and has gained a noticeable amount of weight that even concerned SD's counselor, who noticed it when he didn't see her for three weeks. Her attorney brings up an 'issue' and says SD was bit at our house by a tick and is being treated for lyme disease and that is probably why she gained weight... even the Judge rolled his eyes at that. She gained the weight BEFORE she was supposedly bitten by a tick. I guess last weekend when grandma picked her up, she said SD had a bite on her. SD never showed us a bite and there was no tick on it so it could be a spider bite or any other insect. Grandma took her to the doctor the next day and told the doctor she thinks it was a tick and the doctor gave her amoxicillan (sp?) for two weeks and BM & grandma are the only ones saying it's treatment for lyme disease. We got a copy of the doctor notes that say nothing about lyme disease, nor does it say it was a tick.. just that grandma said so. So, who cares. They lie. It's just another effort to say SD was harmed in our care... as if there are no ticks where BM lives or where grandma lives... whatever!
The Judge went ahead and continued it... indefinitely. He said that when she gets the evaluation (she has to arrange it and pay for it up front all by herself).. when she has it done... then she can petition for a new court date to review it. Until then, NOTHING changes. He did not give us a date to come back... if she never does the evaluation, we never have to go back...
The best part is that if she does arrange and pay for the evaluation and it comes back in our favor, she will still have to bring DH to court to get an order to make him pay his half of the cost... and it will cost her at least 2-3 hours in attorney fees to do that. I just don't see it happening. Oh, and the Judge reprimanded her pretty well.. reiterating a couple of times that nobody is to discuss the court proceedings with SD and that doing so is putting SD in the middle. BM kinda made a face when he said that.. I don't even think she realized the faces she was making but she had attitude and he was not impressed at all with her. As soon as court was over, she got up and bolted from the courthouse with her attorney.
Then, about an hour ago, SD calls DH. She is with BM tonight, I guess BM picked her up from grandma after court. So, SD is calling DH and asking "So, what did you do today?" LOL, wonder if BM has been telling her what happened today? Or at least HER version.... we already know she's never going to listen to the Judge. It will all be our fault... one way or the other.
We are relieved that there will be no more court, at least not until BM follows through.. but now we are bracing for the challenges; BM will continue to poison SD.