Difficult Situation with His kids
His kids are manipulative, disrespectful, self-serving, and have taken entitlement to a whole new level.
He has 5 kids - ages 24 son, 22 girl, 21 girl, 18 girl and 14 son. After a nasty, drawn out divorce, he has custody of his son, 14. The youngest was not a problem until the girls chose to be disrespectful, manipulative, etc. The 18 girl has been a pain since we married 8 months ago, but Dad was doing pretty well at keeping her in line - until she turned 18 in May. The 22 girl is married and has not spoken to her Dad since we married, so she isn't much of an issue for us. The 24 son, his fiance and the 21 girl came to our home for a week. The days leading up to their arrival the 18 girl became defiant and disrespectful. She left and is staying at a friends house which is fine with both of us. She communicated to her siblings her side of what has been happening i.e. dad made a chore chart and is enforcing it, she calls it slave labor. I am disgusted with all of his kids now and truly want nothing to do with any of them. Their father is fed up with them as well but we still have to deal with the 14 son. The 24 son and fiance left and are not really a problem except that they are driving a vehicle daddy paid for and is paying the insurance on - the kids are supposed to be sharing the vehicle while they are at college in another state. They never bothered to let him know if/when they arrived back safely. The 21 girl is going on a mission at the beginning of September, so we have to deal with her until then. She is a drama queen. She has put herself in the role of the 14 son's mother and I'm sure that has much to do with his sudden reversal in behavior. It feels horrible to be in my own home now. I can't stand being here when my husband is at work so I stay in our bedroom. Drama queen has been nasty to my 2 cats before so I keep them in our bedroom with me to ensure they aren't harmed. He isn't happy about their behavior and is doing what he can but he can't be here all the time. It breaks my heart that kids can have such a negative impact in a home. I don't know what to do anymore. The only thing that makes sense to me now is to totally ignore them - have nothing to do with them at all. I don't think that will work for long but I don't now what else to do. Thoughts and/or suggestions?