Update on the drama ~ finally, peace for me!
The latest on my DIL... the court gave me temporary guardianship three weeks ago. We go to court next week for the final determination. Part of the process is having a court investigator make a report & recommendation. She came to our house, interviewed us & inspected it. We had to submit our fingerprints for criminal background check & she was going to talk to DIL. She apparently called DIL & was told she (DIL) was busy but she would call back the next day. She never got a call from DIL. So, since DIL did not give her side of it & has not disputed what I've told the court (along with evidence), the recommendation is for guardianship to be granted. Since the last hearing, DIL has had supervised visits only through her mom & stepdad. They have already changed it on me twice because they have a younger daughter that is in activities & do not want to take the baby to dance recitals or sporting events. My gut feeling is that eventually, they are not going to want to be held to a schedule of supervising a baby they have had very little to do with thus far. According to DIL, they have had little to do with her and that's why she would call me if she needed help. (ie. with her car or the baby) Hopefully, she will take this as a wake up call & do something to change so she can be a mother to her son... or if she isn't going to do that, I wonder if it would be best for her to have nothing to do with him. I have seen too many children damaged by mother's that are flaky & go in or out of the kids' life. (mostly out until they NEED the child to comfort them, be there for them or because they NEED to feel like a mother again... when it's convenient for them of course) Anyway, I might hold my breath just a little until the final ruling & the ink dries on the paper.
BTW, It has been absolutely WONDERFUL that I have not had one phone call or visit from DIL.... no showing up out of the blue needing something... or being in a mood to yell at me... or both.
And then there is SD's BM.... lol
She finally paid her arrears to DH. It was over $3000.00 and he got a lump check. NICE!!! That was back in May. She did not pay in June. Why should she? She is not working because she has the new baby. She probably thinks that since SD is with her in June, she does not need to pay. Oh well, it was surprising that she paid the arrears, not surprising that she didn't pay June. She is also planning a camping trip to the coast with all the kids. (Hers/His/Theirs) Yeah, taking 6 kids (including a 5 month old) on a six hour drive to the coast & camping on the beach. When she asked DH if SD could go (since it falls on his weekend), I kinda joked "where did she get all this money to pay the back support & take a trip like that... she's not working & just had a baby. We know how expensive THAT is!" and then today I found out. I saw on the county court case index where BM lives, that she is being criminally charged with Grand Theft/Embezzlement. It was filed just last week. In the five years I've known DH, that was the first & only job she has really had for any measurable amount of time.. and she is being accused of stealing from them. I'm shocked, but then I'm not really... she stole from DH when they were together.
It just goes to show that maybe sometimes, all you have to do is stand back & let them self destruct.