Need court/parenting plan expertise
DH has decided he is not comfortable doing drop-offs or pick-ups at BM's house anymore. Quite frankly, she is alone there and DH feels super uncomfortable putting himself in a vulnerable positon being a guy at her house. She could (and probably would) make a false rape or abuse allegation against him. Seriously--this woman is so deranged, I can see herself punching herself or slamming her head against a wall to create a bruise, and then saying DH shoved her or something.
DH told her tonight he wants to stick to the parenting plan 100% from now on. That means SHE does the pick-ups when it's her custodial time and HE does the pick ups for his time.
He wants to do them in the police department parking lot of our community when BM does the pick-ups.
BM says NO WAY is she meeting him at a police station. She is insisting she will do the curbside pickup at our home as per the court orders. DH and I are *okay* with that, but DH does not even want to do curbside pickup at HER HOUSE.
BM claims he cannot force her to meet at a police station if it's not in the parenting plan.
Is this right?
How can DH protect himself here?