Not sure... w/ a little dread!
I have a short vent.... not sure what I should do.
SD is with BM for the summer. She is with us on the weekends during summer. Every year, the county fair is in June and ends on Father's Day.
Background: Two years ago, I thought it would be great to surprise DH with tickets to the fair for Father's day. SD & I went to buy the tickets for the three of us while he was at work, so she knew I bought me a ticket. We got to the fair & midway through, she is crying. DH asks her why she is crying & she takes him aside (not very far) and tells him (loud enough for me to hear) that "I didn't know SHE was going to be here!" which hurt my feelings and made me angry because she was with me when I bought the tickets. I vowed not to bother next time, so last year I just skipped the fair altogether. DH didn't take her as he won't go unless I plan it...
Current issue: This year, I am taking DGS. I wanted to take him last Thursday, the first day of the fair because SD was still with her mom. I do not enjoy going anywhere with her lately & figured it would be the best solution. Well, I couldn't go because I was catering a wedding on Saturday & needed to prep Thursday & Friday. So, my last chance is today, Father's Day. We are working until 4 and SD is supposed to be picked up at 6. I asked DH if he was going to take SD to the fair, he said no. Then I told DH that I was planning to take DGS but I would wait until after SD was picked up. Then he decided to call BM's mother & arrange for SD to be picked up tomorrow so he can bring SD to the fair with us.
I am a bit irritated with him for that. I just want to spend a couple of hours taking DGS to see the animals & maybe a few kiddie rides, if he's big enough. I don't really want to listen to SD ask DH to buy her everything & he tells her no, she whines. It just is NOT pleasant for me to be around her anymore. She came back from BM's wearing short shorts & tight tank top (trampy clothes) and wearing lipstick. Unfortunately, things have progressed to where I don't really do anything for her because she treats me as if I don't exist.
So, our options are to separate... he takes her one way, I take DGS another... or we go together & I can suck it up when she annoys me. Either way, I won't enjoy myself as much. I know it's just the fair, but it's indicative of how things are and it's just plain sad. I hate feeling this way & don't know how to change it.