Anyone know about New York?
This is only kinda step family.... it deals with parenting time rules and guidelines.
My sister currently lives in the same state as me. She has a daughter that is 19 months old. She currently is still in a relationship with the daughters father. Yes... I am a VERY over protective big sister. But hear me out. She has thought about leaving him multiple times. He is VERY verbally abusive to her. He's threatened that he can take the baby and just leave blah blah. Mind you... he's in the military and she's a police officer. Obviously the two have control issues. HAHA! Anyway.... I've never seen her back down from anyone except him. I DO like him... I just believe he's too controlling. She gets super anxious and shaky A LOT when she's afraid of upsetting him. He's never been physical.... just verbal.
Anyway, he has other children in New York.... so he got orders to move military bases to up there. So.. my sister will have to quit her police job. She says she could get another one as a deputy but will just be going to school instead. She is currently a state police office and cannot become a state police officer there without going back through the academy, which she does not want to do. She is instead going for something else. I am scared that she's going to get up there, not work, have no money... he's going to get worse because it's all his family up there and all our family is here. We are a good 3 or 4 states away. None of us can afford to fly up there at a whim. I'm afraid they won't make it... then she'll be stuck there without family and not able to leave the state with the child. She'll be forced to stay there because her child's father is there. I know that's how our state works because that's one reason we now have custody of my ss. (Remember, she left state and left him with us)
Does anyone know for a fact that that's how it works in that state? OMG!! My protective side is kicking into high gear. I've tried to back it down and not even think about it.... I just can't help it. I've called my parents and my mom has spoken to her about it already.... she just tells her it'll work out. I think she's already afraid of saying no. :( My dad is calling later. I haven't mentioned it because I'm also afraid of upsetting him. I don't want to be kept from my niece....