I feel like I am annoying you all...but...
SS is doing it again. :(
I do not know how to get through to him, and quite frankly, I do not think DH or I are equipped to help him. He needs a professional counselor, and the one he HAS seen in the past is not helping IMO. He needs someone who speicalizes in alcoholism AND parental alientation.
So we went to DD's softball game this am as a family and SS got upset *for some reason* as we were leaving. I THINK it was because all the softball players got gum and he didn't. He has the hardest time processing his emotions. He was upset (over gum, silly, yes, but this is all how he works, and I think it has to do with his mom's parenting---he over-reacts to the smallest things)
He never SAID he was angry but he asked DD where she got the gum, and as soon as she said from her coach, his face darkened and he just went into one of his "moods." He griped all to the car about this and that--even though he had a great time at the game, playing w/other sibs, chugging Gatorade, etc.
We got in the car and he started in about how he is stupid, he is ugly, no one likes him. DD said "I love you" and he got SO ANGRY. He started crying saying she was being mean to him???? DH said "what are you talking about, she just said she loves you?" And then SS got even more angry, and continued griping about things and finally DH said "I do not want to hear any more of your negativity. When we get home, if you don't have anything kind to say, or are going to ruin everyone's day, you can go to your room until you are ready to be kind."
And SS responded in this cool, calculating voice, "Well, dad, you spank me a thousand times a day, and I will tell my mom that and she'll be angry."
DH and I about flew through the roof. Niether of us said anything then---but when we got home, we brought SS to the family room and DH confronted him. WE JUST WENT THROUGH this yesterday about making false allegations, and the severity of what can happen---ie, police at the dooor, people coming to talk to the kids, etc.
I now wonder if he DID tell his mom all this BS about me grabbing his arm and bruising him. He vehemently denies it---but guess what---he vehemently denied saying what he said in the car about DH spanking him a thousand times.
I mean---is this child mentally ill? I am not saying that in a mean way, I am really beginning to wonder. DH and I were flabbergasted! DH said, ___, you told me in the car that I spank you a thousand times and you are going to tell your mom" and SS kept crying and saying, "no, I didn't!"
The scary thing is---it seems he believes himself???? Like, he really thinks he did not?
I am almost positive NOW that he DID tell his mother that I hurt him, and bruised him.
I am SCARED of this child---not him, but of what he can and will say, and what his mother will do.
Again, the TRUTH is on our side, but that won't stop us from having to deal with false allegations, police, CPS and more.
I just feel like this is going from bad to worse by the minute.
No need to repond with anything, really, except maybe chin up? I have gotten great advice in all my other posts, and I feel like I just keep writing about the same darn thing.