Adult children living at home.....
I am not actually remarried, but I have been with my partner for almost 4 years. His adult son graduated from high school a couple of years ago and has done nothing since then, except sleep all day and stay up all night playing video games, etc. He tried one semester of college and quit going half-way through and lied about it. We only found out that he didn't complete the semester by checking with the school. He has refused to get a driver's license. The BM is out of the picture completely. There is no other place for this man-child to live.
I do not want to live with him. It's one thing if the adult child lives at home and has a job. He's not "bad" in the sense that he does not do drugs and does not drink alchohol, but he has zero ambiition and blames everyone else for his lack of a job, lack of education, lack of a driver's license.
My partner thinks that his son will one day wake up from this inertia and get a life. I do not. This feels like a deal-breaker to me, even though I do love my partner and there are no other issues between us.
I guess I need to set a deadline to get out of this relationship and stick with it, even though I do love my partner.