BM got SS a cell phone...how to handle?
This woman is UNREAL.
It's been a major issue lately for her regarding phone calls. Their parenting plan states "reasonable access" to child via telephone. But to me that is so tricky because, really, what is reasonable?
I am not kidding you---BM has always called 3, 4, even 5 times a day. During the school year--she calls when SS is in car on the way to school in the morning, then she calls in the afternoon as soon as school lets out, then again around dinner time and then again at bedtime.
On the weekends or in the summer, it's pretty much the same---I would say average of 4x a day.
The main thing I want to say here is that SS is not wanting to call his mom. Sometimes he wants to at bedtime and will ask, but other than that, really he never brings it up! It is HER calling HIM.
My DH has a tough time because often BM will tell SS to put his dad on the phone and then DH gets stuck in a conversation or argument with her.
He has been avoiding her calls like the plague.
Ever since this last round where she called the police/ CPS, DH has cut off her calls. He either answers and hands the phone to SS at bedtime, or he has SS call her at bedtime--but that's it.
He does not take her calls, for either him or SS, during the day at all.
Well, she flipped last weekend and said she is entitled to more than 1 phone call a day when SS is w/us---so I guess when DH picked him up today, he now has his own phone.
SS told DH that now his mom is going to call whenever she wants, and SS says he has to have the phone with him all the time.
Give me a friggin' break.
It is just one more control issue on her part. She HAS to somehow infiltrate.
It just bugs me, too, because it really is not like DH is cutting contact between his son and his mom. He's NOT. SS is never the one asking or wanting to call! OF COURSE if he said "can i call my mom?" DH would allow him to immediately! But he just never says that.
I guess we will just have to wait and see how this plays out, and see if it becomes an issue.