My SO surprised me with proposing during our recent vacation in Spain. Very romantic -- he brought a ring with him, did the one knee thing and everything. We have been living together happily for 8 years. But now we're fighting about wedding plans, and I find this very scary. (we never fight about anything else!) This is my second wedding, and his first. I would be fine with elopeing, but we've decided that a simple but classy informal ceremony and reception would be perfect. But anything I suggest, he vetos, but then he doesn't come up with anything concrete as an alternative. This is starting with just the invitations, the location, the people involved, etc. We haven't even gotten to the real nitty-gritty. If he wants to plan the wedding, that would be great. But he is not the type to do that -- he hates to shop, cannot coordiate even his own daily schedule, and I told him I'm not going to do all the work for him to then choose whether he likes it or not. I'm ready to just let it go and stay engaged forever. I'm sure we're not the first to go through this -- any suggestions, or are we better off the way we were?