Watching SS....what do you all think?
It's been 2 weeks since the incident w/CPS and the police.
I have not spent a moment alone w/SS since then.
It's been a tough few weeks for DH and SS. Dh has been taking SS to work with him on Wed/Thurs and Fri.
SS is bored out of his mind. DH has two locations where he works, one is in a not-so-great area and DH has not been taking SS there. He's been taking him to the other dealership and there is a tv, nintendo, etc. that SS can use, but that's about it.
He knows exactly why he can't be with me right now and part of me feels maybe this consequence has driven home the point to him that he HAS to be truthful.
I feel bad for him and am *considering* having him with me and DD again.
It's just turning into a crappy summer for all involved b/c I feel too guilty to do fun things w/DD while SS is at work w/DH. So DD and I sit around and wait until they get home around 2-3 pm before we all head to the pool together. It makes for boring days for DD, and obviously SS is bored out of his mind, as well.
What do you think? Realistically, I can't not watch him forever---it just doesn't work for our family. I mean, to get DH working more reg. hours, I suppose we could hire a sitter for SS but that would a)make him feel different/uncomfortable and b) seems like a total waste of money.
I am inclined to give him another chance. Afterall, he is only 7, and this is the first time we have given him real consequences (and IMO, they are NATURAL ones) for the things he says to his mom.
The problem is, if his mom goes postal again (which she will) I don't think there is anyone that could stop her from doing what she is going to do. At the end of the day, even SS cannot control her. I do think maybe he has learned his lesson about what happens when you tell lies. And to his credit, he was 100% honest w/the CPS lady and told her that his MOM told him the bruise was from me. The CPS lady said he made it very clear to her that it was NOT from me.
Then again--I don't fully trust SS, as a child, when he is with his mom and under her influence.
So what do you think? Give it more time with me not watching him? Give him another chance now?