DH's Big Birthday and Skids
DH has a milestone birthday coming up this week. I am not sure that my adult skids 1. Are aware of it 2. have made any plans for it. My guess is no on both.
I remain friendly with SD36 and SS30 is kept at arm's length. I have already decided to remind them that the day is coming close. Do I have a responsibility beyond that?
I know that they have not planned anything since they rarely do. DH will be deeply hurt if they blow this birthday off. But given my history with his kids I don't feel that it is my job to corral them, rally them, plan for them and so on.
My feeling now is to send them a text reminding them of the day and the age and leave them to their own devices. DH will be hurt if they do nothing but I just am not interested in trying to make them do something they should do on their own.
Any thoughts, advice?