Eloping and wedding announcements
My boyfriend and I are planning to marry this September, in Las Vegas. This is a second marriage for both of us (we're late 40's), and aside from that, neither of us likes to be the center of attention, therefore we are going to elope while on vacation. We have no reception plans.
We would like to send out an announcement to our friends and family; however; we don't want gifts. We have been together twelve years, and quite frankly we don't like the idea of having a family member or friend feel the need to give a gift, especially when they gave us one for each of our first (failed) marriages.
I read that it is poor etiquette and insulting to put "NO GIFTS, PLEASE" on the announcement because it is supposed to be "understood", but I don't know if it really is "understood". Wouldn't stating "NO GIFTS, PLEASE" on the announcement make it clearer for the recipient? Is it really insulting to state "no gifts"? Is there a better way to word it? Any ideas or opinions are appreciated.