The new approach
FDH suggested to go to a footie game with the skids. Skids excited. Skids go back to BM. Next time skids tell us that BM was very angry about the footie game. BM has been meaning to take them for years so she should be the one taking them!!....
We say: Why does BM get so angry? There is no need. She can take you if she wants that is fine.
SD12's birthday coming up. FDH suggested it might be nice to go bowling. Skids excited. Skids go back to BM. Next time skids tell us that BM was very angry about the bowling. BM has been planning to take them bowling herself and we are just trying to copy her!!
We say; No need to get angry. If you'd rather go bowling with BM that's fine, no probs.
We bought a plasma tv. Skids very excited. Skids go back to BM. Next time skids tell us that BM is very angry about the plasma. FDH doesn't pay her enough for looking after the skids and he spends it all on himself and me.
We think: Now she'll need to go and get a plasma as well.. bigger and better, of course. Hahahahahahaha
Sometimes it's better to just be grateful that we don't have all that anger bottled up inside us, and giving is better than taking. And will BM go bowling and to the footie game? That is where she comes unstuck eventually. We just have to sit back and take a deep breath.